As I sit here in the corner at Remedy Cafe with the chorus to 50 Cent’s Ski Mask Way currently in my ears, my friend Noel is having yet another conversation with his friends as opposed to studying for his power engineering exam *cracks whip.* Last Tuesday marked International Women’s Day, a day where women are celebrated for their achievements, courage and ambition. Being a woman is not easy for we are constantly being faced with challenges whether it is proving to men that we can too be bosses financially and mentally. One of my struggles as a woman was trying to embrace my feminine side and learning that it’s okay to be sexy without constantly looking for validation from the opposite sex. I promised my female readers that I would do a three-part segment where I provide tips on how to embrace your feminine side, all coming from personal experience. Click here to read part one from last week. Enjoy the second continuation of how to embrace your womanhood. Ladies, please feel free to comment below with your thoughts and provide any additional tips when it comes to embracing the freedom that comes along with being feminine. We are all in this together!
Photography: Stefan Legacy
1.) Master the Art of Self-Love:
If you were to ever ask me what annoys me, somewhere on that list you will see something along the lines of “the misconception of what it means to love yourself.” Self-love does not necessarily lie within the palm of our heads or by reversing the camera on our mobile device. Self-love should start from within, focus on the traits that you possess or the ones that you could improve on. For example, I consider myself loyal, compassionate, charismatic, loud and sassy (sassy 88% of the time). I use those inner traits to match with the person on the outside. But what is self-love nowadays? I can tell you one thing for sure, it sure as heck doesn’t involve being a decoration for someone to look at. If I wanted to be a decoration for someone to look at, I’d ask a genie to turn me into a Christmas tree or a Picasso painting. Let’s break down the eight letter term shall we?
Self-Love (\self-ləv\): is the foundation on which we build a fulfilling life for ourselves. It shy’s away from narcissism and predominance of the ego and can involve the following points:
– owning our inner beauty
-saying encouraging words to empower ourselves
– knowing what makes us happy
– not rehearsing past mistakes
– taking care of ourselves
– following our gut
– stop letting others define us
– stop seeking validation
-staying true to ourselves
– stop blaming others for our problems
– being able to learn about ourselves
– forming authentic relationships with others
2.) Empower Yourself & Empower Others
The moment I started loving myself was the moment I realized that I can pass on the torch of self-love to others so it can help them realize their self-worth and that they too are beautiful in unique ways.Women are are nurturing and we are able to grasp the understanding of what it means to love and have a certain type of care in our hearts. It’s our job to pass this on to other women as opposed to hurting each other verbally and sometimes, physically. I find the best medicine to empowering other women is through a simple compliment. If you see a beautiful woman walking down the street or in the bathroom at the club, tell her that she’s pretty or that you like her outfit. It sometimes doesn’t have to be physical, it can be a characteristic or talent that they greatly possess. Remember: empowered women empower women.
3.) Follow Your Intuition:
Intuition is the knowledge of something without coming to the conclusion rationally. With love being in our DNA, the best advice that my grandmother gave me was to follow my heart and to always trust the vibes you get. Energy does not lie, so trust it.
4.) Be Spontaneous & Carefree:
Life is too short to be worried about things that you cannot control. One of my resolutions for the new year was to be more spontaneous and to not set high expectations. Find real fun in adventures or stepping out of your comfort zone. Got sick of following routines for it doesn’t lead to self growth so the best way to get out of that shell is to try something that scares you. The life that I have right now was nothing what I envisioned ten years ago and that’s okay for I am thankful for the experiences and also for the people I have met along the way. Once in a while, toss the planner book aside and live in the moment. You were put on this earth for a reason!
Stay tuned for part 3! Feel free to leave a comment below 🙂