Hello my lovely readers! Hope you are all doing well wherever you are in the world or in some cases, the universe. Today marks an important day worldwide: International Women’s Day. A day to celebrate the achievements, acts of courage and determination of all women who have contributed to society and continue to do so. Throughout my life I have overcome numerous obstacles that I never thought I would conquer, from walking across the stage to receive my Bachelor of Arts Degree, landing a new job role, educating a group of Canadian newcomers, proving men wrong with a soccer ball to out dressing them as well to starting this blog. For the next few weeks, I will be doing a three-part segment on an important issue that I have been struggling with for a while and its how to embrace my feminine side. As a youngin, I was always hung around the guys, engaged in sports throughout my youth, meditated to hardcore gangsta rap and paid no mind to the dress rack at Zara. Not many men approached me for I was always under the impression that it was my lack of femininity cause I was such a tomboy. I was always under the notion that these traits took away my womanhood and made me feel different as compared to other women who had no problem embracing their feminine side. Little did I know, it got me to where I am today. That little beady-eyed insecure girl can happily say that she transformed into a woman who is content with embracing her femininity and is not afraid to verbally and visually state it. She does not follow the standards of beauty for her beauty shines from her character for which she uses to empower women around her. Here I present you part one of the three-part series where I talk about how to embrace your feminine side from personal experience. Sending all positive energy to you on this remarkable day, please uplift not only yourself, but those around you today, tomorrow and after.
Photography: Stefan Legacy
1.) Stop Seeking Validation
Seeking validation from someone is equivalent to saying “Tell me what kind of person I am.” It’s a trap that our generation falls into because we assume that the person who is feeding us this information is correct when in some cases, is not necessarily true. Nowadays, the craving for external validation is at an all-time high, regardless of how confident or secure the person is and it is found in the palm of our hands. Apps such as Instagram seem to rates a person’s looks based on how many times the red heart is tapped. Don’t get me wrong, as much as I like to post up a few selfies of myself in fresh makeup and even eyebrows, I am not doing it to seek approval from others saying I look good. Believe me, it’s a nice gesture for when it does happen. I do it because I just so happen to like the way I look in that photo compared to the mess I looked 5 years ago. Or in most cases, 20 minutes ago. The key (in the words of DJ Khaled) is to let go of those likes and focus on the internal aspect of yourself. Am I loving? Passionate? Creative? Modest? etc. And whatever those traits may be, apply them to your everyday routine and watch your inner beauty come to life first and then it will make its way outside.
2.) Enjoy Being A Woman:
Being a woman comes with so many advantages:
– Being able to love
– Express ourselves
– Bring life into this world
– Break gender roles
– We are natural born leaders
– We can set goals and accomplish them
-We are not afraid to dream big
– We can look good while doing all those things
Need I go on?
Enjoy being who you are and don’t let any negative hurdles stop you from going after what you want. If you fall over, get back up and keep going but at the same time, enjoy the journey of self-discovery.
3.) Love Your Body:
Stop comparing your body to billboards and on the Instagram explore page. It leads to disappointment and can be detrimental to your self-esteem. Stop being so mean to yourself every time you look in the mirror and instead focus on what you love about your body. I’ve seen so many girls stand in the mirror in the bathroom at a restaurant just body-shaming the shit out of themselves while looking top notch fleek and I just want to tap them on the shoulder and say, “Girl stop.” If you are a woman reading this article, stop what you’re doing, walk over to the nearest mirror, look at yourself and instead of focusing on what you hate about your body/self, talk about what you love. When you finish, come back and tell me what you said in the comment box below (I’m dead serious about this by the way).
4.) Embrace Your Sexy Side:
Every woman has the right to feel and look sexy for it alludes confidence and builds up the ladder leading to self-love. For some women, being sexy come naturally but if you’re like me and need the extra push to come out of that shell, it might take a bit longer. For the longest time, I never viewed myself as sexy in the physical sense for I believed it was more intellectual. Being a woman who knows what she wants and who is not afraid to use her voice as a platform to promote her thoughts is considered intellectually sexy to me. As stated in the first point, what’s inside will work its magic to the outside, but the key is to always choose what’s inside first. Don’t be afraid to throw on some lipstick, throw on that little red dress, some high heels and become your mirror’s best friend. In some cases, I text up a few girlfriends for a night out where we recreate our own rendition of Carrie Bradshaw’s Sex & The City. I call dibs on being Miranda!
Ladies, please feel free to drop a line in the comment box below and tell me how you embrace your feminine side and what it means to be a woman in your own words. Look forward to hearing from you!